Depression is real so I hear the saying.The truth is,do not trust your heart,it can betray you when you least expect I liken a sick body to attack of the body with veritical or horizontal illness in which one is helpless and cannot do anything by one's self while I liken a sick soul to one that is cast down and totally discouraged as a result of good or bad reasons. I liken a sick spirit to when the spirit is attacked with uncontrollable circumstances. The spirit and soul can be heavy and discouraged and one's peace disappears.
The spiritual they say controls the physical. The sickness of the soul may not be curable sometimes by natural means because it affects the emotions. An individual may appear so fulfilled and positively engaged with the right energy but he/she may be internally sick deep down in the soul.
The media both traditional and new have recently been doing so much of coverage on suicides especially in Nigeria and I observe that the Media dictates what happens in the society and sometimes I believe that even acts that should be discouraged when the media publicises them more,it popularises such acts so I had thought that even if such acts of suicide are so prevalent but the media is silent about them,then it will reduce the number of persons who indulge in such an act. I am beginning to have another view as regards this ,considering an incident that happened to a family I know earlier this year. It made me have a rethink on suicide that there may be forces behind this act and these forces may be numerous,invisible and sometimes visible.
This time and age,a lot of forces are contending with each individual from difficulty to getting a well paid job ,to meeting basic needs,to having a good relationship maritally and other aspects,to trust,to handling of failure,disappointment and downward/down moments etc. It seems the climate and environment decides one's freedom,happiness or sadness and not the individual himself. People do not seem to understand that the answer to move forward in life sometimes may be momentary NO .
This under twenty year old girl stayed with her much older brother and was a student in a government senior secondary school, her house being close to the school and her brother's mini supermarket where she usually help out after school. He took good care of her but all along,he never knew he stole from him.
However,he knew some things were amiss but could not figure it out as his money was getting missing but he never maltreated her because he was not even aware she was doing such. Eventually,the very day he got a wind of the information,he then sat her down and asked her questions,counselled her aright against theft and pilfering,it was then he knew she had opened a bank account and had saved money and also had bought a phone worth about 30,000#/for one of her friends in school,she eventually did not state what bank she deposited all the money but rather in annoyance went home,sent a younger fellow tenant a common fumigant and drank it all.
I wondered to myself when a friend also told me the story of her daughter's friend ,a thirteen year old girl who attempted suicide because her sixteen year old boy friend disengaged from her.
I kept wondering to myself when and why people consider suicide as an option because I doubt if anyone has gone that path and returned to inform others that the solution to their problems in the world below is found in that world where they arrived after committing suicide.Suicide has ripple effects on all that is related to the one who commits it making it a double jeopardy. The University of Lagos driver who killed himself about two months ago, I understand has three children still at the elementary school and who now need a father to take care of their basic needs.
The elder brother of the twenty year old girl had to report the case to inform the school and it was surprising when he arrived there but was informed that the said girl was not the fourth or fifth to have committed suicide in that Government secondary school.
That kept me thinking that would it be a good one if in our secondary school curricular across the nation, students are taught to see the brighter side of failure and corrections.
It surprises me in this age that a man will refuse a girl an amorous relationship and the next you hear of the girl is that she sets herself ablaze or took a fumigant etc and so she is dead or you hear of a young man who had a fantastic job and it seems all was well around him but in the corner of his heart was one disappointment which may probably push him towards a better life and then the best he did was to go suicidal or one hears of even young men/women who have one critical lack or the other considering suicide.
No matter how bad life may treat one,once there is life,the bad will turn out well some day sometime if and only if one does not give up on God and on oneself.
What one cannot afford to make alive,one should rather not destroy especially in the case of human live.
As human,one should learn to let go what is responsible for his/her unhappiness especially if they are people and situations we can handle and avoid those who refuse to add value to our lives .For situations we can not handle,let's hand it over to God trusting him for a better outcome.
We are individually responsible for our happiness or sadness.
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