MARITAL DISAGREEMENTS

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Once upon a time, a newly married man who loved his wife so dearly got into a serious argument that eventually tore them apart forever.
Probably because they were new in marital issues,they fought  and argue over any little thing especially in consequential things. There  were times they shared happy moments together that when they were seen,they were mistaken for the happiest couple in the world.Obviously, they loved each other but jettisoned the fact that when the mind is unhappy with one's partner,it should be for a moment  as the heart still loves .

The husband came home from work one afternoon,very tired and famished,he searched the house for snack or chewable but found none,he checked the dinning table and luckily found a well tied cashewnut( though little quantity of about#100 worth) though not as much to quench his hunger pangs so he picked and ate it.

The wife returned home from the market so tired having arrived home earlier to have a change of attire so as to go  shopping to prepare some foods. She was very hungry and had thought to herself that the cashewnut will help hold her hunger pangs while she gets busy in the kitchen. She reached for the cashewnut and angrily,she asked her husband what happened to the nut,angrily he replied her that he was hungry and found no food at home. The wife did not react with ease and soonest hot argument ensued between them. The husband further responded in the local dialect,saying " Whoever owes the slave,likewise owes the properties of the slave".The wife got mad at him and it became a serious exchange of words,she reacted by calling him all sorts of unprintable names. He tried so hard to hold back avoiding hitting her. To avoid any escalation, he got his pair of slippers and vacated the house for a moment.

For a moment was going to last forever.He thought within himself where he could probably go to calm his nerves, so he decided to visit a friend who stays about three parks away from theirs.

It was rather an unfortunate decision because he had boarded the wrong vehicle, he had boarded "one chance" with ritualists as commercial motorist.

When he realised he was kidnapped having gained his consciousness about six hours after he boarded the unfortunate vehicle in which he immediately slept off after boarding,he reached for his phone which he still had with him and put calls through to his wife.

Her phone rang for a couple of minutes as she peeped to see the caller,she deliberately ignored ,still in rage .She refused to pick his calls while he was in danger.
Hours after,at midnight, she got scared thinking its unlike her husband not to return home for the night, she tried to return the call but at this time,the phone never rang anymore. Then, she started running helter skelter in search of him,no one knew his whereabouts. Two days after ,they reported to the police with the husband's picture in case of any eventuality.

She sent prayer requests to their church and churches,spiritual homes etc,vigils conducted for that purpose, prayer requests sent to Facebook platforms etc, while she herself became an angry wife turned prayer champion overnight but all to no avail.

That was the last she saw of her husband. She loved him more now that he is no more and even wanted him to take more of her  peppered cashewnut  possibly.

She had missed that important phone call all because of cashnewnut and anger. She could not forgive herself.

Lessons Learnt
1 Learn to resolve issues with your spouse amicably no matter what and avoid pushing further and farther .

2.The days you live together as couple is just but a few days,they are too short to be filled with strifes, fights and ego. Enjoy those days in love and happiness,you won't live together as husband and wife forever.

3.When angry,always remember it's your mind that is angry,your heart still loves your partner.

4.Don't be selfish,learn to share whatever it is you have with your partner

5.Don't be too proud to say sorry even if you are the man,head,nose or tail of the family.

6.No utopia relationship/union,try to strike a balance. When the right hand washes the left hand and the left hand does likewise to the right then both hands are clean.

7.Forgiveness is a virtue and only the strong forgive,it may be tough and hard to forgive,its characterizes your strength. Try not to pay people back in the same coin they have just paid you,it may not augur well at the long run.

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