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ARE YOU KIND TO YOURSELF?
Abuses and Misuse simply means improper treatment ,wrong practice and abnormal use.
From time immemorial,there have been abuses and it increases by the day especially when not prevented. In some cases,individuals even personally abuse and misuse themselves,though the effects are usually immeasurable.
Abuses could be carried out verbally,physically emotionally,psychologically or in any form.
Abuses could be;
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Physical:Hitting, beating,strangling etc
Digital: Using technology to hack into another's account and privacy,use of social media like twitter,Facebook,Instagram etc as I see on twitter street,some Nigerians just must abuse whenever they comment especially when they disagree. Some persons request for nude pictures and threaten their victims of exposing such digitally so as to exploit them.
Marital :Domestic violence from the woman to the man,vice versa. At the work place,the man is a boss but in the house he is a baby who is helpless,courtesy of his wife. In some cases, isolating partner from family members and friends who are not necessarily having any influence negatively. Being unnecessarily possessive when a partner is seen with another especially an opposite gender. Most often,emotional abuses lead to physical abuse,denial of basic provisions like intimacy and amenities.
Financial: This could be in any relationship,parents to children,wives to husbands or vice versa such that the man's money is spent for the home but the woman's money is meant for her own personal use.Embarrassing employer of spouse which may lead to loss of job,preventing a woman from working yet being irresponsible for her financial upkeep. In some cases, helping out financially with the intention to get returns in kind.
Clerical abuse:Using spiritual authority wrongly to abuse subordinates,their spouses and children.
Adult /Elders' abuse: Abandoning the old especially those vulnerable or taking advantage of unsuspecting ones.
Medical abuse:A physician or caregiver taking advantage of patient's disability or ignorance.
Parental abuse:Children to parents or parents to children. Abandoning children for longer periods with inadequate care.
Human Right abuses:In this case,it seems rule of law is rightly defined on paper and Democracy seems defined to make a common man happy but really cannot be realised anywhere in the world.
If its really Government of the people,by them and for them,the negative repercussions may be worst considering the world we live in presently.
The rate of inhumanity is alarming and unthinkable.
Some persons for reasons of fraud and or dubious activities would not consider it important to have their annual rest and leave. They abuse and at the same time misuse themselves stressing and never de_stressing. They pass aggression out on every one they encounter. While some others, worry themselves to sicknesses and death, on situations they have no control over.
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Some persons usurp authority, they are islands of knowledge and ideas and so do not delegate responsibilities to others or subordinates. They wear out and look older than their real self. They shoulder all responsibilities and do not trust themselves to even instruct or delegate others. Division of labour is not real as far as they are concerned.
Another form of misuse which we see around often is misuse of office.In this case,it could be misappropriation of funds and power causing structural violence and agitations for secession and even war.
The last to be considered here is misuse of self. The human race is very complex especially in this age and time, that anything goes. Its amazing, how it is now believed,in this contemporary age that some persons who engage in same sex relationship are actually born that way because it is inherent in them and they now clamour for their rights also as it were. However,I am yet to hear from Cell Biologist that the gay gene has being discovered. Sometimes,especially this age,I tend to admire the orderliness of lower animals. In the history of the world,it has never being said that a male dog was caught with another male dog copulating or any such thing in the animal kingdom .In High school, and those with boarding facilities, there have been talks of such practices being so rampant and it seems to be in Vogue and I wonder if its not a form of misuse of the body.
I laugh when the young misuse themselves by abusing substances and it just seems illogical that a drug that would usually be prescribed to someone in the shadow of death to ameliorate their pains before death finally knocks on their doors like Tramadol etc are the drugs used to get inspiration, get high and feel belonging,its so absurd and an unforgiven way of misusing one's body.
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Abuses and Misuse,ruin lives,impact negatively,leaves victims with Post traumatic stress disorder(PTSD),mental health disorder,suicide and even death in some cases.
When one de-stresses and is kind to himself or herself,it projects to others and reduces abuse.
